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My self-summary
Hufflepuff. ISFP.

I value kindness, decency, and thoughtfulness highly. I work hard to be better at each.

I laugh a million times a day and I love making people laugh as well.

I'm in a non-monogamous relationship with the amazing therural_juror. We date people independently, which is what this profile is for. However, if you're interested in the both of us, you can check out Tonks_and_Lupin. If you have any questions about us, please feel free to ask. I love talking about it!

Also, I'm sorry if it takes me a million years to get back to you. I have a million wonderful messages and I try to give thoughtful replies as much as possible.
What I’m doing with my life
Dog magician.

I also do porn things.
I’m really good at
Final Jeopardy, understanding when people have probably heard the same joke from each new person they meet, giving relationship advice, fixing things.

The first things people usually notice about me
Broad shoulders, blue eyes, long hair.

Bitchin' rest face.

On second thought, it's probably the dog I'm walking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

Vonnegut, Arundhati Roy, Rilke, Sagan, Edna St. Vincent Millay, Sherman Alexie.

The Wire, Game of Thrones, Parks and Rec., High Maintenance(!), Louie, BROAD CITY, The Venture Bros., Avatar: The Last Airbender.

If I'm being honest, AFV is probably my favorite show.

I grew up listening to punk rock (mostly street punk), so that'll always be my first love.

The rest: The Magnetic Fields, The Kinks, Bowie, Joy Division, World/Inferno Friendship Society, They Might Be Giants, Talking Heads, Roxy Music, Lou Reed, Annie Lennox.

I put almost no stock in music as a signifier of a potential match. You know, unless we share tastes and then of course I'll swoon.

I do have a growing selection of vinyl because I'm 34 and those are apparently the rules.

This American Life, The Savage Lovecast, Stuff You Should Know, 2 Dope Queens, Science Vs., Reveal, Bodega Boys, Reply All

No mayo. Let's cook for each other! I love to grill as well.
Six things I could never do without
Honestly, I'm always trying to live with less.

Air conditioning is a weakness for sure, however.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Toxic masculinity and how to use my place to fix it. Same goes for many similar issues.



How lucky I am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got some issues with anxiety/depression/self-esteem that I'm treating but also struggling with. I tend to prefer people who are comfortable talking about mental health.
You should message me if
You want to get a photo of a dog every day.

You're gentle, thoughtful, funny, and seeking the same.

I just want to emphasize the fact that, while I am partnered, I'm not here only to find people for the two of us to hang out with or with whom to have NSA sex. I love meeting new people and making connections, regardless of what the relationship is. Also, I try treat people as human beings first and foremost, and I don't consider decency to be something reserved just for those close to me.

A million bonus points if you're currently partnered or have experience with ethical nonmonogamy.

Eternal Sunshine is one of your favorite movies (I'm pretty sure this is 94% of my matches).
The two of us