42Uppsala, Sweden
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My self-summary
“Single” doesn't quite cover my relationship status, but none of the other statuses seem a very good fit either. I'm a very relationship anarchist kinda person.

I love getting to know new people without a specific plan or intention, just meeting and seeing where it takes us. Spending the night or having a coffee/tea/beer and a chat are both enjoyable if we're both into it. :)

• Polyamorous (relationship anarchist)
• Perpetually black-clad (You know what goes with black? – Black!)
• Nerdy
• Atheist (Pascal's wager, Russell's teapot)
• Klingon-speaking
• Talkative
• Hacker (in the original sense, not a cracker)
• Tea lover (Yunnan, Lapsang Souchong etc.)

I'm also a couch surfing host (though admittedly with a somewhat small, 24m², apartment) if you happen to be passing through there (search for zrajm on Couchsurfing).
What I’m doing with my life
I'm an organiser of poly meetings in my hometown (having held a meeting every month since January 2010). I also enjoy going to other (mostly poly related) activities in Stockholm and Uppsala (and sometimes Gothenburg and Helsinki, with the occasional foray to cities further afield).

I usually attend the local goth/industrial club, dMz, here in Uppsala, and sometimes I go to concerts (punk, EBM and industrial).
I'm an avid science fiction reader (and movie watcher) – loving hard SF the most – and I occasionally go to the monthly SF fandom pub nights here in Uppsala. And I usually attend at least a few SF conventions a year (occasionally being part of a panel, or holding a presentation – usually on Klingon).

Apart from all of the above, I'm also a speaker of Klingon (spoken by the dudes with washboard forheads in Star Trek) – an interest which led me into linguistics, and constructed languages, grammar, phonetics and, and last but not least, computer linguistics.
I’m really good at
• Talking. :)
• Taking everything people say to me as a compliment.
• Be present in the moment (and forgetting about the future).
• Analysing (and overanalysing) – Because it's fun!
• Self love (love yourself, thereafter others).
• Klingon (tlhIngan Hol DajatlhlaH'a' je?)
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard. My black clothes. My skirt. My talkativeness. My love for puns. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite Movies: Harold and Maude (1971), Heathers (1989), Twelve Monkeys (1995), Lola rennt (1998), Heaven (2002), eXistenZ (1999).

Books: The Origin of Species (Charles Darwin, 1859), Mars Trilogy (Kim Stanley Robinson, 1993–1996), The Evolution of Cooperation (Robert Axelrod, 1984), The Dispossessed (Ursula LeGuin, 1974), The Design of Everyday Things (Donald A. Norman, 1998), Use of Weapons (Iain M. Banks, 1990), Breaking the Spell (Daniel Dennett, 2006). (Ooops! Almost as much science as fiction on that list!)

TV series: Firefly, Wonderfalls, Atheism: A Rough History of Disbelief, Charlie Jade, Buffy, Dexter, The Prisoner, Cosmos.

Music: (Punk!) Bad Religion, Anti-Flag, Rise Against (not Rage Against the Machine, okay?), Varnagel, DLK. (EBM!) Nitzer Ebb, Front 242, Spetsnaz, Spark! (Aggrotech!) Combichrist, Aesthetic Perfection, (Singer-songwriter!) Tom Waits, Suzanne Vega, Mikael Wiehe, Björn Afzelius, Big Fish.
Six things I could never do without
There are plenty of things I couldn't do without, but apart from the obvious (e.g. elementary particles, empirical experiments, energy, tea, etc.) and incomplete list could look something like this:

• Internet (my country of origin, if you ask)
• Science (my religion)
• Touch (my drug)
• Text messages (my preferred method of long distance communication)
• Intellectual/creative conversations (my brain food)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What rules govern social interactions? How do you design everyday objects in a good way? (E.g. doors. Have you noticed how many bad doors there are out there?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Practicing my brownian motion dancing skills to industrial or EBM music. Or I'm home polishing http://klingonska.org/, or watching a movie or documentary, or I'm caught up in a fascinating discussion about evolutionary biology, algorithms, design and user interfaces, or I'm having a beer with a dear friend, or I might be out on a date with some awesome person from OkCupid (you?).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I pee sitting down.
You should message me if
If you're open for non-monogamous relationships, have a match rate of about 80% or more and live in Uppsala/Stockholm or thereabouts, or at least is passing through here at some point and want to meet.


If you're in Uppsala, Sweden, and you're a relationship anarchist, or poly in some other way. (We have meetings and pub nights every month, wanna come?)


If you're a Linux-centric computer nerd – especially if you're interested in robots, or other stuff with movable parts. (I want to build an intelligent home! Do you?)


If you're a language geek – and especially if you speak Klingon. (tlhIngan Hol Dajatlhchugh vaj jupna'wI' SoH! choqIH DaneH'a'?)


If you like boys with red beards and skirts. (Then I'm your type!)


If you have kittens! :)


If you just want to give someone a compliment.
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