small and round with strong outer defenses and a soft, cuddly underbelly; (un)selfconsciously fat, cute, sweaty, and/or food-stained; (agender) nb trans as fuck; soft butch/hard femme as fuck; (solo) poly as fuck
i'm a little unsure what i have to offer straight people, but i remain open to possibilities. hope springs eternal.
Eliza Skinner: "dating over 30 is like trying to lure a feral cat out from under a car, while you yourself are a feral cat under a car."
I can, in fact, see likes.
my instagram, linked below, is likely to just be my handsome and brave cat son for the next however long. sorry not sorry.
keywords: nerdy; queer; soft butch/hard femme; enby/non-binary/agender; solo poly;
taking care of a dear friend with chronic fatigue/pain issues.
what I want to do with my life: write more, spend more time with friends, find community.
lately I've been reading a lot of Moomin comics, listening to anthologies and DJ mixes on shuffle, and playing Yakuza 5 on PS3.
goodreads // last.fm
some things I'm gonna judge you for: Ayn Rand; Ernest Cline; the Big Bang Theory; "everything except rap and country"; non-medical aversion to vegetables; I'm-not-feminist-because-I-believe-in-equality; "sapiosexual" when what you mean is "i prefer conventionally hot people who are also grammar prescriptivists"; #gamergate; how you treat animals, children, and service employees
agender: all my life, my heroes have mostly been heroines and I draw strength and inspiration from their examples. the traits I value in others and try to develop in myself (e.g. competence, compassion, resilience, vulnerability) don't carry gendered weight, they're just my go-to tools for navigating the world. so I'm a little bit of one and a little more of the other and carry trace elements of every but mostly I'm none at all. gender is a performance and I dislike singing for my supper.
(ethical) non-monogamy/polyamory: i believe in accepting love where and when and in whatever form it occurs, and giving back as best as I can. I'm not that interested in kitchen table poly. maybe gaming table poly. in practice, I tend to focus on one relationship while crushing a lot, often unrequitedly.
i don't know where else to put this, but: i don't know if i have the energy to date much further south than Laurel or Columbia MD. I commute to DC four days a week for ten-hour shifts, and it takes a lot out of me, and i'm not sure i can drive that far or further on an off day unless you're down with nap dates or Sunday morning brunch/dim sum dates. (totally message me if you're down with nap dates, regardless of distance/location)
your schedule is weird but flexible;
you like small plates, fancy drinks, cheap books, thrift stores, cult video, and 7/10-rated video games;
you’re down with George Clinton, the Grateful Dead, Grimes, and Godspeed You! Black Emperor and everything in-between;
your relationship timeline & hierarchy resemble fractals or old-school dungeon maps;
you don’t dig on this but you have a friend you want to set me up with;
you believe that existence is naturally unfair and thus have little to no interest in preserving nature or acting naturally in that respect;
you have chocodiles and are willing to share;
you're down with nap dates (see above);
you enjoy reading aloud and being read to;
you want a mix tape.
keywords: nerdy; queer; femme; androgynous; enby/non-binary/agender; solo poly; chocodiles