• Welcome to the Gilmartin Love-Shyness Test. This test is based on that found in the 1987 book Shyness and Love by Dr. Brian Gilmartin.

    "Love-shyness" in males is characterized by an intense anxiety and fear of socializing with members of the opposite sex. This condition can transcend even clinical "social anxiety disorder," causing the most extreme cases to go for decades--or even their entire life--without even a single date or sexual encounter. Love-shy men are typically more prone to a host of ailments, both physical and mental (most of which I'd estimate arise from depression); do poorly in school and on the job as compared to non-shy men; and on the whole live very despondent, emotionally painful lives. Love-shys tend to have little interest in making same-sex friends, typically feeling that they would be perfectly content with one woman with whom to share a deep, intimate connection.

    Clearly, if you are love shy, you probably already know it. ;) If you'd like to read more about the condition (which, to the best of my knowledge, is unfortunately not clinically recognized as a legitimate personality disorder) or download an electronic copy of the abovementioned book, you can visit www.love-shy.com; also of interest may be the Wikipedia entry.

    Gilmartin's study... er... studied exclusively heterosexual males; I'm not sure if the condition has since been extended to cover homosexual men as well, but hey--I say give it a try! Love-shyness is often considered a disorder that afflicts only males, as societal norms make it possible for most women to avoid the situations that contribute to its development and to end up in satisfying relationships despite intense shyness (see the book for more details on how and why this is so). However, this inventory is written in a gender-neutral way (minus one or two questions), so please feel free to take it.

    Now that you've got a little bit of background, let's get started! This test has 55 questions and should take approximately ten minutes to complete.

    P.S. - Please please please send me feedback if you have any ideas on how to make this test better! This is my first test so I'd like to know what I'm doing right or wrong, or if there are places that could be improved. At least remember to give it a rating when you're done. Thanks! :)